{my thoughts on the previous post - and MORE}

You know how people say sometimes its better to follow your heart instead of your head. I think that logic is whack when it comes to relationships because it’s when you focus only on what your heart tells you, that you completely put it out there and chances are - it’ll break. Picture this, an ant in the middle of a crowded street. What do you think are its chances of surviving?

Regarding the previous post, here’s my take on situations where leads to a dead end. This is where your head plays an important role! A relationship (which actually shouldn’t even be called a relationship – it contradicts the term too much) where there’s a third party involved {or that makes ones self the third party} or has no intention of going anywhere even from the beginning, is NEVER worth it to take seriously. Not for a second. Understand? I’m not even being cautious when talking about this. I’m not saying – “usually” you shouldn’t take it seriously. I’m saying, NEVER ever – don’t even think about it! – don’t even half-think about it. If there’s one thing I’m sure of, it’s this.

You know those movies where a girl falls for a man with a wife? They got it right, HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE and in the end, if not just the third wheel gets hurt. The wife gets hurt too and it only ends in a huge mess.

So what is the right way of handling these sorts of situations?

If you are the one that includes a third party into your relationship; meaning you are the one who are already in a relationship but is still horny for more. Then you should consider breaking up with your girlfriend/boyfriend who you obviously don’t care enough for to stay loyal and keep it in your pants. My question for you is: What the hell gives you the idea that you have the rights to be doing something like that? Did you get a green card from the Relationship Police that you can go screw around with people’s feelings?

If you are the one that becomes the third party, I am in no place to judge. Are you sucked in by the romance? If so, I feel sorry for you. My only advice is that you & I both know it will not end to side you so if you live by, “I just want to have it as long as I can” then wear a helmet and enjoy the ride, pray to God that you come out alive. Just be sure to repeat this every night before you go to bed, “This is a game and it will end soon so I’ll be ready.” And if you’re lucky, you’d learn to believe in that so when the time comes for things to end – trust me, IT WILL COME! You’re ready. If you got involved for any other reason that wasn’t motivated by your feelings – look in the mirror and repeat after me, “I am a horrible person who dedicates my life to ruining other people’s happiness and should get hit a bus when I go out today.”

If you are the victim; your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on you. I’m sorry – life sucks and you’ve just got to deal with it. If you’re lucky, you’d find out earlier.

In a nutshell, relationships that goes no where or relationship that involves a third party will always end BAD. Why do people get involved anyways? They think with their hearts instead of their head, some probably thinks with their privates. {if you know what I mean} So, kids. My advice? Stay true to the meaning of relationships, they are meant for two people who actually cares for each other enough to want to stay loyal to each other. (I bet you are surprised that I sound so un-cynical, huh?) So what’s my real advice? “Futureless arrangements” should only be for FUN – people who can’t handle something without any emotional attachments/involvements should STAY AWAY from situations like that because YOU CANT DEAL WITH IT.

reformation; gone wrong

this post may not appear educational on the outset, but i believe deep down, underlying all the confusions, there definitely is a lesson to learn. u know, some may say the lesson is obvious, but i guess u have to be in it to understand how "cloud 9" really can screw you over.

x. what happened...

i just got "semi off" my recent cloud 9. how i spent the past 10 days can only be describe as me, living someone else's life. my attempt to reform came to a sudden halt when i was sucked into yet another whirlwind of drama, scandal, deceitful, futureless "arrangement" with a member of the opposite sex.

x. the situation...

he had a girlfriend who was far away, whom he hasn't really started with; also whom he will be reunited with in a short 2 months. i, on the other hand, was offered the position of the girl he was mysteriously drawn to, whom he was convinced if he never "got to know", he'd spend the rest of his life, thinking "what if"; also whom he will only have 2 short months with.

everyone knows where this is heading rite?

x. how it worked...

girlfriend is left in the dark, boyfriend convinces new girl to become his mistress with his confident exclaimations of genuine passion and hopelessness to her charms; girl consciously knows if she agrees, she'd have to deal with her feelings by the end of the two months; she becomes afraid, but gives in to him at the end because his words and promises, and her wishful nonexistent hopes has left her limp and fragile.

x. what went wrong...

so they enter into the "arrangement"... only to realise, 10 days was sufficient to drive their emotions out of hand. the "fun" aspect quickly got washed over by doubts, greed and insecurities. she was never sure how much to give, ending up cold and hot to him all the time. guy persists to convince the girl that they just need to let go and live the dream; to forget about the 2 months expiration date, but at the same time, he was clinging on to his faraway girlfriend and expected the girl to be fine with everything.

... 10 days.

x. how it ended...

10 days later, girl gets a call from the guy. "its not working out. its too hard." girl puts on her cold side and accepted without as much as a sigh. this probably convinced the guy he did the right thing. the phone clicks off...

... a tear rolls down the girl's face. she felt so stupid.

Are guys in general bipolar?

Its either they’ll care for you too much and become over protective until you feel you have no space to breathe or they just don’t give a F that you’re alive?

Excuse me, I’m ranting.

Do they just not have a reason to be better?

Good guys will attract girls who like consistency; Bad boys will attract girls who love a challenge. However they ARE, girls will still fall for them. I once read somewhere that, “the only problem with men is that they have none.” Do we honestly believe that? As much as I hate that statement I can’t help but think that it’s true because isn’t loving each others flaws the few main key points of a relationship? And honestly, that’s the way it is, isn’t it? We, females tolerate the male. With the excuse or thought in mind that that’s how it’s suppose to be! Their foolishness is what makes us love them more.

Here’s something for you to ponder.

REALLY? In this day and age, really?

Well I guess you can say when you first start falling for that person, the silly things they do really do make you like them even more but honestly when you think about that, isn’t that just plain denial? Doesn’t that translate to: I doubt I can get a better guy with less flaws, I’ll just stick to this one and hope I’ll get use to the idiotic things he does.

I’m sorry if I’m making love seem like a bunch of crap. Its not that I think the whole idea of “love” is ridiculous. (I’m not saying I’m not saying that either) but can you honestly tell me that in this day and age, the fundamentals of a relationship are still being built on the basic things? Everybody wants to gain something from someone; it’s all self interest/inflicted.

Why do people break up?
Do they get sick of each other, do they realize their not right for each other, do they break up because they aren’t getting what they want out of a relationship? Do me a favor, make this your assignment, ask friends around you what the reasons their last breakup occurred are. I can bet my life, that it has something to do with infidelity or someone was being an idiot. Then ask them, how did it start? What was their relationship based on? I can assure you more than 60% of them are because on physical. Why? Because relationships where two partners can share details about their lives and be connected at a very high emotional and spiritual level will NOT breakup for ridiculous reasons! This is often why people don’t stay friends with their exes which make it something unacceptable when exes remain good friends. (Which I can tell you is BS because there is no reason why exes can’t remain good friends)

How often do people experience great love stories in their lives?
The purity of it all has vanished and is never coming back, just like high top jeans.

What’s contradicting?
When I say most people stick it out even when their partner’s attitude frustrates them to their limit and then I say that people are only interested in their own best interest because obviously having to endure someone’s BS attitude is NOT caring for their best interest.

I leave you with one word,
discuss.