how does you're relationships start?
#1 he's tried to court you for a long time.
give yourself a pat on the back, he's a keeper! ...for now.
#2 you've had your eye on him for a while, he finally gave in.
a. he could have finally "got to know you" and decide that you're good enough.
b. he looked around longer and told himself, "she seems like a good deal...for now."
c. he wants some action and you're willingly around.
#3 you spot him, he spots you . unsure of what he feels, you express yourself and then he says he loves you too.
a. he could be thinking, "well, she likes me. why not give it a shot?"
here is where i think a 3month rule would apply. notice i said, "you spot him, he spots you." it means it was a at-first-sight sort of thing so if two people gets into a relationship, the first 3 months would be the make-it-or-break-it. get past the first 3 months, i can guarantee you'll last longer than 13 weeks. ;)
conclusions.
#1 which ever way it starts, how are you sure he really loves you?
a. if he courts you for a long time, 99% chances are he really cares for you. if not, he's mentally ill for chasing after something he doesnt really care about. i'm sure we all agree on this.
b. he finally gives in. 50/50 chance.
c. at-first-side effect, can be split into two sub categories.
i) you admit you like him first : he could just be like i said before, trying his luck with you since you like him too. he doesnt lose anything.
ii) he admits he likes you first : he still could be trying his luck, just not as certain that you would feel the same way. he might lose face but he wont hurt as much you as you think he would.
i actually want to focus on the at-first-side effect and the girl being the one that confesses she likes the guy first, most of the time the guy would just go along with that girl. i wonder why is that? is it that, as long as it is a girl, a guy would not reject at all? (with the physical appearance checked out - for the typical "shallowish" guy)
when its not the guy who pursues a girl - it usually is a girl developing feelings for a guy first & the when the boy finds out, he'll (like i said before) try his luck. so my real question here is this :
how do you know if he really cares for you? because if he starts to date you mainly because you already had feelings for him and he wouldnt have to put in any effort into chasing after you, where does his heart really lie?
does a guys feelings really only slowly develop after they GET into a relationship? or is that a basis of a relationship doomed for failure?
#1 he's tried to court you for a long time.
give yourself a pat on the back, he's a keeper! ...for now.
#2 you've had your eye on him for a while, he finally gave in.
a. he could have finally "got to know you" and decide that you're good enough.
b. he looked around longer and told himself, "she seems like a good deal...for now."
c. he wants some action and you're willingly around.
#3 you spot him, he spots you . unsure of what he feels, you express yourself and then he says he loves you too.
a. he could be thinking, "well, she likes me. why not give it a shot?"
here is where i think a 3month rule would apply. notice i said, "you spot him, he spots you." it means it was a at-first-sight sort of thing so if two people gets into a relationship, the first 3 months would be the make-it-or-break-it. get past the first 3 months, i can guarantee you'll last longer than 13 weeks. ;)
conclusions.
#1 which ever way it starts, how are you sure he really loves you?
a. if he courts you for a long time, 99% chances are he really cares for you. if not, he's mentally ill for chasing after something he doesnt really care about. i'm sure we all agree on this.
b. he finally gives in. 50/50 chance.
c. at-first-side effect, can be split into two sub categories.
i) you admit you like him first : he could just be like i said before, trying his luck with you since you like him too. he doesnt lose anything.
ii) he admits he likes you first : he still could be trying his luck, just not as certain that you would feel the same way. he might lose face but he wont hurt as much you as you think he would.
i actually want to focus on the at-first-side effect and the girl being the one that confesses she likes the guy first, most of the time the guy would just go along with that girl. i wonder why is that? is it that, as long as it is a girl, a guy would not reject at all? (with the physical appearance checked out - for the typical "shallowish" guy)
when its not the guy who pursues a girl - it usually is a girl developing feelings for a guy first & the when the boy finds out, he'll (like i said before) try his luck. so my real question here is this :
how do you know if he really cares for you? because if he starts to date you mainly because you already had feelings for him and he wouldnt have to put in any effort into chasing after you, where does his heart really lie?
does a guys feelings really only slowly develop after they GET into a relationship? or is that a basis of a relationship doomed for failure?
1 comments:
good thoughts. annoying ones but good. lol hate men.
hate the mix signals.
hate them not knowing what they want.
hate not knowing what they want. hate being who they think they want but didnt really want.
hate them making us feel they want us, only to find out they only wanted us cuz we're easy.
hate being first to "feel" something.
hate him playing the game.
hate not being the woman he wants and have always wanted and will always want.
hate men for wanting us becuz we're a girl and not becuz we're our own individual.
ah. what a rant. i actually feel better. lol
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